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Evolve, Evolve, Evolve

September 16th, 2011 | 2 Comments | Posted in Stay Or Go?

Dear Bitter Single Guy: I have been dating a lovely man for the past 2 years.  We met in college- he was a year farther ahead in school than I was; he just graduated and moved 800 mi away to attend graduate school.  I have remained in my home state to finish my final year of school and graduate with my undergraduate.  We’ve been doing the long distance thing for our year apart.

My parents have never been too fond of him- though they don’t blatantly dislike him, they feel we are both too young to be as serious as we are.  With graduation coming soon in May, I must choose whether to stay close to home and find a job or move to his city and work there (as he is in a PhD program, he can’t move to where I am).  I understand that there is a huge risk involved in moving- thus, I do not intend to be financially dependent or living with my boyfried so that in the event that things did go downhill, I would not be putting my well-being at risk.

No matter what I do, I will step on someone’s toes.  I’m 20 years old, never had a true ‘fight to the death’ with my parents, and don’t want to risk losing a man I truly love.  I see three options:

1.) Continue to reside and work in my home state; family problems non-existent, puts relationship on hold

2.) Move to his state to reside and work; family problems ensue, solid relationship move (assuming things go well)/

3.) Move home and work for a company that has offices in both states, work for several months in home state and request a transfer to his state; still family drama (perhaps less), moving to be close to him, although it would certainly delay the process.

Have I overlooked something?  Or am I being foolish trying to please all parties involved. ~What’s The Next Move?~

Dear WNM: This is totally easy for the Bitter Single Guy and for you. Option 2 is the correct choice.

Your family will not like that you’re moving away. They need to get over it; baby birds grow up and leave nests…it’s the state of the species. Your relationship will likely not work out; he’s in a PhD program, you’ll be starting a new life, you’re both in a new city. These are tough obstacles to get over, but there are always tough obstacles to get over.

So with all these negatives, why is the BSG putting his big booted foot into your feathered ass to get you out? Because becoming an adult (a lifelong pursuit by the way) requires that you learn and grow and experience new things. Why wait? Do it WNM. You’ll totally thank the BSG. ~BSG~

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September 12th, 2011 | 3 Comments | Posted in Stay Or Go?

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Her Best Friend and Her Sister

September 6th, 2011 | No Comments | Posted in I'm A Tool

Dear Bitter Single Guy: So, my sisters and I (we’re quads) have one best guy friend. My oldest sister has a crush on him and she has told him how she feels, but they’re not going to act on it or anything as we go to two different colleges in two different states.

But, since she has told him how she feels, he’s been distant from the rest of us. I don’t have a problem if my friend and my sister date, but I do have a problem if he doesn’t talk or hang out with me anymore. He barely ever replies to my skype/text messages because he’s always talking to her.

He doesn’t come around the house to hang out anymore, and anything important about him that I would like to know (like where he decides to go to college) he will tell only her, and she will “forget” to tell us until later.

I’m really fed up with this as I don’t feel like he’s really my friend anymore. And I’m really upset about this because he’s literally the only friend I have.

I have spoken to the both of them about this before, and it was ok for about a week, then it went back to him never talking to me or wanting to hang out. What should I do? ~Missing My Friend~

Dear MMF: The Bitter Single Guy checked his extensive archives and has confirmed that he’s never received a quadruplet-related question before! Of course the BSG is assuming your reference to “quads” is to quadruplets and not to quadriplegics because well…that would just be wrong. Wrong on so many levels. So rather than try to work through that mess, the BSG will just assume you mean 4 children from one birth. Please, if the BSG is wrong, write back. He’s not sure that his answer will be different, but the BSG strives for accuracy as much as possible.

OK MMF, the BSG isn’t going to have great news for you here. First of all, if you and your three sisters  have one best guy-friend that’s a pretty heavy load for poor Goober (the BSG isn’t sure why he’s chosen this name, but it seems to work). The BSG wants you to read up a little on the festive medieval practice of being drawn and quartered for a happy-fun visual.

Just like romantic relationships, friendships evolve. If it weren’t your older sister who proclaimed her attraction and claimed Goober’s attention, it would have been some other girl. Or a job. Or college. Or an all-consuming comic book hobby. We all move into and out of relationships at different levels, MMF.

So here’s the BSG’s recommendation: Tell Goober that you miss him. Tell him that you care about him. Then go about your life. Make other friends, hang out with your sisters, have fun in college. The BSG assumes that folks are still aware of the old adage about letting something go if you love it, and it will come back to you or some such nonsense. The short version of this adage is this question: Do you really want a friend who communicates with you and spends time with you out of guilt?

He’ll find you when he wants to, MMF. Granted, that may be years from now in whatever Facebook becomes in 2020, but you can’t control that. ~BSG~

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