Dear Bitter Single Guy: I’m 15 and I’ve only been reading on this sight for approximately fifteen minutes. I find this site very enlightening, so I thought I’d ask a question or two. I’ve always been a bit girl crazy, but now it has occurred to me that this has been going on a bit too long. Aside from my rigorous studies that induce stress (going to college as a freshman, AP classes, etc. as a freshman in high school) I find myself dealing with a lot of internal issues. Some trivial, some not. One of which is about relationships. I usually meet a girl, know her for a while, then slowly fall for her. My problem is that I get these feelings for two or three girls at a time. Does this make those ‘like’ feelings un-special? And what should I do to stay in the friend zone with people and not fall for them in the first place? In Love With Love
Dear ILWL: The Bitter Single Guy is pleased that you wrote to him! The BSG himself remembers having thoughts and feelings in his teen years and wondering if everyone else was also thinking that sleep was just about the best part of the day. Of course, the BSG was too shy to ask if other kids were feeling the same thing about how much they loved sleep, so he remained closeted about his sleep-love. The short version of this babbling is that the BSG would like to go back to sleep, but that ain’t gonna happen.
Hey, back to you ILWL! Being girl crazy (or boy crazy for that matter) at 15 is totally normal…heck, you’ve got years of girl-craziness ahead of you, so relax and enjoy it. If you’re finding that you’re having feelings for two or three girls at a time and that’s getting in the way of being a productive member of society, welcome to the club. The BSG sometimes thinks that he’d be way more productive without his pesky libido.
Don’t worry about trying to stay in the friend zone (the BSG loves that there are now zones…he wonders if the zones are marked with bright yellow tape. He thinks they should be). Relatively speaking you’re still new to all this (no one wants to hear that, but it’s true), so the BSG recommends relaxing into it for another few years.