Codependents Are Us
Dear Bitter Single Guy: I am only 15 but I am deeply in love with a girl. I love her more than anything in the world and we have been friends for a very long time. I’m really happy when she is, so I strive to make her happy. Is it OK to live your life for another person? Is this normal? ~I Live to Make her Happy~
Dear ILTMHH: The BSG wants you to go, right now, to your dictionary (every 15 year old should have one). Open that dictionary to the “c” section and look up codependent. The BSG will wait…
OK, ILTMHH, if your dictionary is anything like what the BSG found in his own dictionary, you probably see some mention of “psychologically dependent in an unhealthy way”.
Now look back at the part of your letter where you ask if it’s OK to live your life for another person. ILTMHH, take some time looking between that definition of codependent and your own letter. In case you’re not getting it… NO, it’s not OK to live your life for another person. If you’re LUCKY, all you’ll get is bitter and resentful. ~BSG~
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