The Bitter Single Guy’s Relationship Advice

Dating a Four Year Old

Dear Bitter Single Guy: I’m having an odd situation with my bf. we have been dating nearly a year now and I already know and understand that he doesn’t like a good friend of mine.

so I tell him I’m going to my friend’s house for a little party with her grandma we have had every year since we have been friends. He doesn’t like that I’m hanging out with her and brings up for the first time that he wanted to hang out with me on that same day. Then he was basically making me choose between seeing him or going to my friends get-together, and if I saw my friend then he refused to see me the rest of the day because he said it would feel awkward seeing me after me coming from her house.

a little later in the evening after the party, I had invited him to see a show with me and my mom thinking that his little ‘you made your choice’ stunt wasn’t as serious as other times. He declined for the same reason. Then after I got out of the show with my mom, I find out he saw the same show at around the same time but in a different theater!

Do you have any idea why he would do this or how I should respond to it? ~Torn Between Friend and Boyfriend~

Dear TBFB: The Bitter Single Guy is, as he’s said before, usually limited because he only hears one side of the story. For that reason, his policy is usually to assume that what the letter-writer tells him is accurate. The BSG provides this disclaimer so you will understand his response here. Your boyfriend is a big whiny baby and someone needs to spank his whiny ass  (and not in that good way).

Really TBFB? He refused to be around you on a day that you had spent time with your friend? What, like you’ve got cooties on you or something? The BSG could almost…ALMOST…understand his position if the friend in question was an old boyfriend or even just another guy, but as the BSG understands it we’re talking about a girlfriend you’ve had for some years, right?

Unless she’s some sort of axe-murderer, Big Whiny Baby has a responsibility to let you have your friends and to agree to be relatively mature about it simply because she’s your friend. Of course, you have the responsibility to recognize that your boyfriend won’t like all your friends (or you his) and to respect those feelings when making plans. But frankly, none of these finer rules of relationships matter in the face of Big Whiny Baby’s cooties-avoidance behavior. Kick his ass a little, TBFB.

~BSG~