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Do I Stop or Not?

November 3rd, 2009 Posted in I'm A Tool

Dear Bitter Single Guy: I met and fell in love with someone about two years ago who I consider my soul mate.  She and I were in the process of ending our marriages, but hers was further along than mine. I lied about the status of mine because I knew it would mean us breaking up and I would potentially lose her.  She found out and I lost her.  After much soul searching and counseling, I called, apologized and told her that I was still in love with her.  She expressed her disappointment in me but her response was favorable.  Even to the point of her telling me that I have her number and that it was ok to call again. We began to talk regularly again and I began to get hope that we could get back together only to find out without her telling me that she had started seeing someone again.

The nature of the conversations prior to that point gave every indication that she was available to me (with obvious hesitation), but no mention of another guy.  This gutted me.  Since this discovery, we talk at least 4 times a week and she has revealed that she is still in love with me and wants to be with me, however she made a choice in spite of what she feels and I have to respect that.  But she is the one who calls and complains about the guy and even said he is not pleasing her sexually and asked if I had a problem giving her some to help her out.  I recently asked her what were her feelings for me and she went off on me, to later apologize and say that she does in fact love me but I am not allowed to ask her that again.  I believe the guy is a rebound, and believe that she really wants to be with me, but because I hurt her she is hesitant.  She doesn’t want me to go away (and I don’t either), but she from time to time says that I AM NOT RESPECTING HER RELATIONSHIP, but when I go radio silence she calls and declares her love and want for me.  I don’t know what to do. ~Bad Guy/Good Guy~

Dear BG/GG: You’re a tool and you’re being used. The Bitter Single Guy wants you to stop talking to this girl, and for the love of Pete, stop having sex with her.

~BSG~

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One Response to “Do I Stop or Not?”

  1. TBF
    Relationship status: N/A

    Says:

    November 8th, 2009 at 5:56 pm

    BSG,
    Thank you articulating it so perfectly.  Nothing worse than a man being toyed with by a woman that doesn’t know what she has. 

    Having SEX with these women only empowers them and makes them think that their “offering” is worth our SOUL!
    TBF


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