Dumped for a Baby Daddy (maybe)
Dear Bitter Single Guy: Me and my girl have been having a few problems the past few months. She broke up with me a few days ago. I spoke with her 2 days later and told her how I felt about her and that I still wanna be with her. While I was doing this she was smiling like she was flattered, so I took it as a good sign. When I was done she told me she just needs a break, time for herself and said please just let me do this. I will do this cuz maybe I need that time too. I just don’t want anyone else to come in the picture. Oh she also has a baby daddy for her 1 year old son… What should I do because I do want to get back together? ~Not Done Yet~
Dear NDY: The Bitter Single Guy is feeling out of touch because, while he’s heard the term “baby daddy”, he doesn’t exactly know what it means in this context. NDY, does it mean that she has a 1 year old son with a daddy-figure who she’s not romantically involved with? Does it mean she’s shopping for a daddy for her 1 year old? This is confusing for the BSG. He knows that there was a movie called Baby Daddy (or something like that) with relatively major stars and the BSG has actually heard Oprah use the term ‘baby daddy’, but he didn’t really understand it then either. He thought it was shorthand for “her baby’s daddy” which sounds pretty straightforward, but doesn’t really describe the mother’s relationship with the father, and doesn’t really accommodate the baby growing older. Can a 22 year old be the ‘baby’ in a baby-daddy scenario? So confusing.
Oh by the way NDY, you were dumped and your relationship is over. The BSG gets that you’re not ready for it to be over and he gets that you want to get back together, but the Baby Mommy (going forward referred to as your ‘ex’) doesn’t agree.
Someone else is likely to get into the picture; that’s a common occurrence after a breakup. If you’re lucky, she’ll miss you and it will be you. Take a deep breath and say it with the BSG: “I’ve been dumped.” Now get some of your buddies to take you out for inappropriate amounts of cheap beer (or premium ice cream, whatever your poison) and start the necessary process of grieving. ~BSG~
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