Getting Dumped Sucks
June 30th, 2010 Posted in Random Crap
According to the BSG’s recent entirely scientific poll, 20 out of 30 respondents say that getting dumped sucks more than dumping someone. So fully two thirds of respondents confirm what the BSG (and you) probably would have guessed.
But isn’t it interesting that one entire third of respondents say that dumping someone sucks MORE? Hmmm…the BSG thinks this is interesting and that’s why he’s writing The Bitter Single Guy’s Guide to Breaking Up. One third of people will need the book to make the dumping easier, and the other two thirds of you (us?) will need the book to understand what the hell just happened.
It was in a poll, people. It’s true. Answer other BSG polls today.
~BSG~
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July 5th, 2010 at 5:02 pm
Can’t wait to read the book.
While the dumper often feels a sense of relief when cutting things off, it still feels like hell sometimes, especially if you still love and care for the other person. I recently broke things off with someone, and it hurts so much because I wanted it to work, but we could both see that it wasn’t going to. Guilt at being the one to cut things off is an additional burden.
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July 7th, 2010 at 12:08 pm
ya, but to say it’s worse than getting dumped is stretching it…
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July 8th, 2010 at 8:17 am
Amy, the BSG doesn’t disagree…but 2 out of 3 survey respondents do. The BSG thinks it depends a lot on what’s more recent.
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September 3rd, 2010 at 7:18 am
I think it hurts both ways. So far I’ve ended things twice and been dumped once. Personally, I think that in the “right” situation leaving someone can hurt a lot more. Being forced to leave someone you care deeply for in order to preserve your own emotional wellbeing sucks a lot, especially when you know they care too but are unable or unwilling to meet your needs. Not only do you still long for them, but, unlike being dumped, you are the one keeping the two of you apart. That is the pain of the dumper: having to be strong, deny your own desire to give in, and constantly remind yourself that even though you are hurting them and yourself, it is the right thing to do. When you are the dumpee you feel angry and hurt, but you have someone to beg and plead and try to convince otherwise. When you are the dumper you have only yourself to rile at and yourself to blame if you do give in to their promises to change or try harder.