Comments on: Getting Over Him

By: The Bitter Coupled Gal

The Bitter Coupled Gal — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 19:40:29 +0000

Marko – this gal is 25 and her beau is 31. Yes age seems to have less of a barrier when the male is older, however, the onlyt ime this iwll become an issue is if you allow it.

The older you get, the more the age distance closes.

Listen to BSG – age makes no difference when compatibility steps its happy foot forward. If you make each other happy then 3 years is nada.

By: BSG

BSG — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 19:03:28 +0000

Dude, the BSG usually limits his responses to those folks who email him directly, rather than commenting on postings. Sometimes he just doesn’t see these!

That aside, this is easy: there is no reason a 22 year old and a 25 year old can’t be deleriously happy in a relationship. Age is no barrier here.

By: MARKO

MARKO — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 18:27:13 +0000

Dear BSG i hav 1 question…i found this girl of my dreams only thing that is worring me is that im 22 and she is 25 would relationship work for us?
is that heaps age differents?
i alwys make her laugh n smile but im just scared to ask her out of age difference….would you please help me
thanx marko.

By: The Bitter Coupled Gal

The Bitter Coupled Gal — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 23:46:14 +0000

AW. DND – this gal feels for you. There is good news and bad news for you.

The good: Cliche as it is, you really will get over it. The bad? This is probably not the last time you will be forced to deal with distraught emotions.

This gal used tot rya nd focus on guys who did like her and pretend the other didn’t exist but it never works. Completely understand that turmoil.

Unfortunately you guys seem to have many mutual friends. Isn’t high school cruel? You can’t do what those of us outside college do and just blank that person out of our lives. I comend you on being strong enough to continue hanging out with him but suggest maybe the solo times come to a halt.

Its just unfair to you DND. For him to continue inviting you out, pretending like nothing is wrong and then, perhaps unintentionally, but none-the-less hurting you by flirting in front of you.

I wouldn’t suggest talking to him about this anymore. It never matters what someone says. To go after another cliche – actions speak louder than words – and his speak pretty clearly.

Go out, enjoy yourself and realize it has nothing to do with you. You are young – you have plenty of crushes coming toward you.

And how about a silver lining – as much as hollywood wants you to believe you’ll fall in love in high school and be happy ever after – you won’t. You’ve saved yourself some heartbreak when you go off to school. OR rather, you’ve saved yourself the hassle of having to gently let your undeserving dude down when you try to explain you don’t do Long Distance (read: I want to explore my options!)

Focus on college and on yuor future. That is where the fun starts.