He Left
Dear Bitter Single Guy: So. My ex was never really an ex. We dated for about 7 months total, the only guy I have ever fallen for. He tells me “I’ll always be the rock in your life. I want you to know no matter what I’ll always be there. I know every man in your life had failed you but I won’t. I am 20 he is 28. We met each other’s family and had a really good relationship we were just never official. He was leaving to New York. Spent about 5 days a week together fought only 3 times total. Night before Valentines he is at his female friends house and I find out online (facebook). I get mad and start an argument I leave, he tells me I don’t understand because I’m young. He completely stops texting and calling. Three weeks later I get a text. “I had fun while I was in TX. I still care about you. I don’t want you to think that I don’t.”
Now he won’t talk to me wants nothing to do with me and is coming in town next weekend to hang out with my cousin and her boyfriend who are ten years younger than him and he met through me. I still love him and can’t move on I’ve dated other men but I just can’t get over him. I want him back but I know I’m stupid and I’m trying to move on but I want to believe that he will come back.. I don’t know what to think. Your advice please? ~Hoping Against Hope~
Dear HAH: The Bitter Single Guy is sad for you because you’re right…you’re being a little stupid and this relationship is over. A few key points:
- You say you were never official: Yes you were. Official relationships only require that a relationship exists and this one clearly existed.
- He’ll always be the rock in your life: The BSG wants you NEVER to believe this. Be your own rock.
- Don’t use logic: You never fought, his family liked you, he “still cares about you”. Logic makes for soul-less relationships.
- You’re angry: Of course you are, you got dumped (the BSG wants you to realize this) and you’re entitled to be angry. Own it, embrace it, in time the anger will pass.
~BSG~
