Hiya Bitter Single Guy: I am in desperate need of someone to translate “girl” for me! I work with a REALLY cute girl (we’re in different departments, so no conflicts there). I finally asked her out. In fact, I’ve asked her out like 4 or 5 times now. She was originally really responsive to us doing something together. But, whenever I try, her response is always “Yes, I’d love to (insert proposed activity here) with you, but I’m busy doing (insert other thing here).” If it was just “No, I’m washing my hair that day” I think I’d get the message. Instead, she’s still really friendly, and always starts with “YES”. Does YES really mean NO? Am I being dense? Am I chasing after someone who has no intention of being caught? What gives!? ~Confused by Girls~
Dear CBG: The Bitter Single Guy wants to give your Elusive Empanada the benefit of a doubt and believe that she is just really really busy and not blowing you off because the he thinks that would be tacky. Here’s your plan: The next time you have a plan to do something with Elusive Empanada, ask her out as you already have. If she has yet another creative reason why she can’t go out with you, ask her when she IS available. There are movies playing every evening in most cities, so the BSG is pretty sure you can find something to do.
If she comes back with something vague like “I have to get back to you.” then assume that Elusive Empanada doesn’t have the wherewithal to simply tell you no. This will be your cue to stop asking and move on. ~BSG~