Dear Bitter Single Guy: I’ve been seeing this guy for almost a year. He cheated on his ex with me once time, and then we got together a year later. Now she (the ex) just won’t go away! When he and I first started talking again, I got prank calls. Now she calls him crying when she stops seeing a guy, and when I gripe, my boyfriend says that his ex is fragile and he feels obligated to help. What am I suppose to do? ~Ex-hausted From His Ex~
Dear EFHE: The Bitter Single Guy feels he needs to make a quick statement about your charming chap cheating with you on his distraught girlfriend. You know as well as the B.S.G. that if they’ll do it WITH you they’ll do it TO you. Watch your back with this one EFHE.
Now that some time has passed, however, the BSG understands your frustration with your charming chap’s inability to cut the cord. What you understand (that he does not) is that it is past time to cut the cord. If this girl is fragile, she should get therapy. As long as your boyfriend remains her self-appointed caretaker, she’ll remain firmly in that role if for no other reason than to screw up your relationship (one can hardly blame her…she probably thinks you screwed up hers).
The BSG wonders if your charming chap has an exit strategy for this damsel in distress? Does he imagine that one day she will just tire of calling him, or that she will become strong and self sufficient and shove her ship away from his dock some day? Nope, the BSG pictures you and Charming Chap at a large Thanksgiving dinner with your children and grandchildren when he has to put down the carving knife in order to take a call from the Damsel in Distress who will have interrupted her own family event in order to interrupt yours. Cut the cord EFHE; it’s time. ~BSG~