My Life is a Clash Song
Dear Bitter Single Guy: My boyfriend and I have been together for two years but things have changed tremendously since our first year together. He’s so different and reclusive now and most of this is due to the fact that his depression and panic attacks have gotten severely worse. He does not have health insurance and hasn’t been on medication for almost a year. I’ve offered to help him pay for the medicine but he is too proud and won’t accept. I worry that the man I fell in love with is gone forever, but the hope that he’ll get better and go back to who he was is what keeps me in the relationship still. Our relationship, for a good portion of it, has been so perfect that it makes breaking up hard to do. We want to be together very much but realize that love isn’t enough, especially when it isn’t working. So, what’s the hard truth? ~Should I Stay or Should I Go?~
Dear SISoSIG: The Bitter Single Guy thinks the short answer is that you should go, but don’t stop reading and go off half-cocked just yet (plenty of time for that later). Unmedicated depression or other disorders can definitely result in someone falling into an emotional pit and the BSG doesn’t think life with someone in a pit is ideal in any sense.
The real issue here SISoSIG, is convincing your bf to get the help he needs. If not you helping him buy medication, there are often community programs that can help him. The problem of course, is that being depressed gets in the way of doing something about being depressed, which makes it tough to muster up the motivation to help himself the BSG suspects.
But back to you SISoSIG. If you’re miserable and if you believe that your bf’s depression and panic attacks are what’s bringing you down, you may have to make that tough decision and bolt. Perhaps your absence will inspire him to get the help he needs.
~BSG~
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