The Bitter Single Guy’s Relationship Advice

Not Attracted to Who She Wants

Dear Bitter Single Guy: I am a 20-something student in a professional field, and I always seem to go for the same type of guy: 5 to 10 years older than me, with virtually no career. I don’t like to judge men based on these facts alone, but I have had very bad experiences with this type of guy, and I guess I am a little shell shocked.

Recently, I have met yet another dude that fits that profile, and he asked me out. And on top of that, I met a guy with more of a career and a seemingly more gentle soul, but he might be a little shy… I booked dates with both of them. My problem is this: knowing I have a tendency get messed up in dating situations like Dude #1, should I just cancel that date and stick to Dude #2 (the nice guy)? OR can I give them both a chance provided I am keenly aware that the first dude is probably nothing more than one date? ~Two for the Price of One~

Dear TPO: The Bitter Single Guy thinks you need to consider why you keep finding yourself with these older ambition-less guys. He suspects it’s simply because you’re attracted to them! It seems likely that you’ll go out with Dude #1 and feel a spark that will make you despair and feel hopeless about your romantic future. This will be exacerbated by the fact that you’ll have a date with Dude #2, who sounds great “on paper”, but for whom you will feel no spark.

The BSG recommends figuring out what, in these older career-free  gents, is getting your attention. Perhaps you have a care-taking impulse that comes out when faced with someone with no apparent direction? Whatever the answer to the attraction question is, the BSG wants you to then find that characteristic in someone who is more likely to be a match in other ways.

~BSG~