Comments on: Seeking Perfection http://bittersingleguy.com/odd-break-up/ Humorous Advice From a Guy Who's Been Dumped Once Too Often Wed, 09 May 2012 15:33:59 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: DMU http://bittersingleguy.com/odd-break-up/comment-page-1/#comment-996 DMU Mon, 30 Nov 2009 05:14:59 +0000 http://bittersingleguy.com/?p=247#comment-996 Sitting around bored, i figured i'd re-read this. Yes I am DMU. I figured I should add someting that has been on my mind....and i'm not making this up: her father and brother share the same first  name as I do. Her next beau did as well. She flew off to Korea to be with him, all the while telling me that she desired me, but considered herself in a relationship with him, all the the while this "relationship" consisted of going over to his house a handful of times, this didn't work out for her too. She called me to tell me about this, so the emotional tampon thing is sounding pretty good to me. Skip to a few months later she gets a job as a teacher, now instead of getting a place to herself, she moves in with a middle-aged man who again shares the same name. Now i'm no Freud by any means but it strikes me as being a tad strange. In terms of a first relationship it has soured me a great deal and I find it very difficult to even make eye contact with other women and am extremely nervous engaging them in conversation, afraid that the same thing will happen once again and lead to another year smothered by fear, booze and regret. Am I still hung up on her? Yes. I bump into her sister at least once a week and it seems to re-open the wound everytime, but I guess thats life... Sitting around bored, i figured i’d re-read this. Yes I am DMU. I figured I should add someting that has been on my mind….and i’m not making this up: her father and brother share the same first  name as I do. Her next beau did as well. She flew off to Korea to be with him, all the while telling me that she desired me, but considered herself in a relationship with him, all the the while this “relationship” consisted of going over to his house a handful of times, this didn’t work out for her too. She called me to tell me about this, so the emotional tampon thing is sounding pretty good to me.
Skip to a few months later she gets a job as a teacher, now instead of getting a place to herself, she moves in with a middle-aged man who again shares the same name. Now i’m no Freud by any means but it strikes me as being a tad strange.
In terms of a first relationship it has soured me a great deal and I find it very difficult to even make eye contact with other women and am extremely nervous engaging them in conversation, afraid that the same thing will happen once again and lead to another year smothered by fear, booze and regret.
Am I still hung up on her? Yes. I bump into her sister at least once a week and it seems to re-open the wound everytime, but I guess thats life…

]]> By: Sony http://bittersingleguy.com/odd-break-up/comment-page-1/#comment-253 Sony Wed, 11 Feb 2009 19:08:09 +0000 http://bittersingleguy.com/?p=247#comment-253 There are many people out there that always complain about not knowing why they got dumped. Since this is her first relationship she may felt obligated to give reasons why she is breaking up with him. She probably did not find any reasons besides she is not into him anymore and imagined the perfect man and list out all the differences between the two. The old "it's not you it's me" thing and saying that she does not want him to change is her trying to make a clean break up without resentful feelings by the guy. There are many people out there that always complain about not knowing why they got dumped. Since this is her first relationship she may felt obligated to give reasons why she is breaking up with him. She probably did not find any reasons besides she is not into him anymore and imagined the perfect man and list out all the differences between the two.

The old “it’s not you it’s me” thing and saying that she does not want him to change is her trying to make a clean break up without resentful feelings by the guy.

]]> By: BSG http://bittersingleguy.com/odd-break-up/comment-page-1/#comment-252 BSG Wed, 11 Feb 2009 15:36:31 +0000 http://bittersingleguy.com/?p=247#comment-252 The BSG often wishes that his readers' (or their tacky mates') inappropriate behavior backfires on them, so he agrees with Mrs. R in hopes that  Delicate Dandelion will get a taste of her own medicine one day.  Aaaaandd...the universe is in balance again.  *sigh* The BSG often wishes that his readers’ (or their tacky mates’) inappropriate behavior backfires on them, so he agrees with Mrs. R in hopes that  Delicate Dandelion will get a taste of her own medicine one day.  Aaaaandd…the universe is in balance again.  *sigh*

]]> By: Mrs R http://bittersingleguy.com/odd-break-up/comment-page-1/#comment-242 Mrs R Tue, 27 Jan 2009 21:14:22 +0000 http://bittersingleguy.com/?p=247#comment-242 What planet is this girl on?  I'm reminded of the saying "unrealistic expectations = planned resentments".  Very few people would match her list of requirements, and those who do would expect HER to bring something to the table too.  I hope she's up to the challenge, because if not, she'll be dumped for the very same reason she just gave you. What planet is this girl on?  I’m reminded of the saying “unrealistic expectations = planned resentments”.  Very few people would match her list of requirements, and those who do would expect HER to bring something to the table too.  I hope she’s up to the challenge, because if not, she’ll be dumped for the very same reason she just gave you.

]]> By: Steve http://bittersingleguy.com/odd-break-up/comment-page-1/#comment-92 Steve Sun, 19 Oct 2008 02:28:07 +0000 http://bittersingleguy.com/?p=247#comment-92 She told you what she wants, you know you're not quite it.  Even if things "work out" and she decides you're close enough, it won't work because you'll always be "close enough." The only other way it would work is if she grew up and changed what she wanted so you were a better match, but you can't/shouldn't/I pray you don't wait around for that. That way doormatville lies. Steve She told you what she wants, you know you’re not quite it.  Even if things “work out” and she decides you’re close enough, it won’t work because you’ll always be “close enough.”

The only other way it would work is if she grew up and changed what she wanted so you were a better match, but you can’t/shouldn’t/I pray you don’t wait around for that. That way doormatville lies.

Steve

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