Searching For a Soul-Mate
Dear Bitter Single Guy: so i was checking this site out and i thought you might be able to help me out i want to thank you in advance for anything you can tell me well im a 18 year old and i been single for going on 3 years i realize lots of people don’t meet there soul mates till much later in life but being alone this long is really starting to take a toll on me i mean im a nice guy kind to every1 strong values and pretty smart sure im not the most atractive person but sometimes there things that mean more then that am i wrong.? i ask some of my friends and dad about some of it and there like just wait good things come in time but i been waiting for 3 years there only so much friends can do i know im looking for a soul mate at a much younger age but i just want someone to hug and hold hands with i guess im ask for 2 much well i like to know what you think. much Respect. ~Tired of Being Alone~
Dear TOBA: The Bitter Single Guy would love a world where romance and relationship problems could be solved simply by the use of a period at the end of a sentence (any sentence, really). If that were the case, TOBA, the BSG would have an easy solution for you, but alas…
TOBA, the BSG doesn’t have any better advice for you than your friends or your dad, except that the BSG definitely doesn’t want to discount your feelings of loneliness. There are some folks past the age of 18 who will tell you that because you’re young, your feelings aren’t real, but the BSG isn’t that guy.
So there are some things the BSG has to recommend for you that will make you (or anyone, for that matter) soul-mate material.
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Read stuff. Read fiction, read non-fiction, read the newspaper, read magazines. Read stuff that will result in you having an informed opinion about something. Anything. (The BSG recommends reading about the election and then voting in it)
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Exercise outside. The BSG differentiates between outside exercise and inside exercise because although the gym is a great way for busy folks to ward off encroaching infirmity, being active outside adds a bit of interest to you that becomes attractive “You kayak? That’s so hot!”
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Make friends. This is not just because making friends makes the universe a better place. Make friends because you learn how to be in a relationship (friendships and romantic relationships have several qualities in common) and also because your friends have other friends and you get to shop for romance.
TOBA, the BSG should also say that he’s a little skeptical about finding a soul mate…soul mates are built, not found.
All that aside, the BSG will also tell you what everyone else has: you’re young, give it time. BUT…make sure you follow the directions above so you’re not leaving it to chance.
~BSG~
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