She Likes Him and He Likes Her
I hate it
Okay,
Dear Bitter Single Guy: At first I had a crush on this guy who is now one of my closest friends. But this isn’t about him. One of his close guy friends and I became friends through my first guy friend. I never really minded him and totally ignored him 24/7 because he was always around this guy that I supposedly had a crush on. This guy (the annoying one) is a real joker and he’s totally immature, yet he’s funny as hell. So what first seemed as a joke, this guy started to pursue me. Unfortunately, not only did I not like him at all (since I found him extremely annoying).
He did anything and EVERYTHING to get my attention, and I mean everything. He tried to kiss me at least 15 times; he got any chance to touch my hair or to simply look at me. And he would relentlessly tease me and bother me as well, not to mention he’s also very rude and vulgar sometimes. He’s serenaded me multiple times, taken my cell phone from me repeatedly just for the sake of it. And he asked me out to the movies, but I was “busy”. Thing is, I didn’t fall for any of it cuz I knew it was all a joke to him.
Anyways, three weeks ago, my sister went to school as student for a day and her mentor was this guy. I knew she’d do something to ruin it all. I was right, and I didn’t even notice it until recently. My sister tried to match up (cuz she loves interfere with everyone’s lives) some girl from my French class and him. So what. I didn’t give a damn. This girl wears tons of makeup and apparently has been desperately scouring the grounds for a boyfriend from the beginning of the year. Plus she was nice. It didn’t bother me at all, she hung out with us sometimes and by then he still teased me, but he was getting the message that we’re not ever going to be together.
Until that day came. Two weeks ago, this guy and I had this huge fight where we ended up trying to twist each other’s arms, stab each other with pens, and we were kind of shouting at the top of our lungs in the study room. I refused to leave, so he stormed off after one of our friends made us stop.
Hours later, I’m still studying in the same spot and he comes in with that girl. They were caressing (no kissing, flirting madly, and he gave her a massage…) it took 5 minutes before I left the room to break down in tears, and I didn’t understand what was going on.
We didn’t speak to each other. He said sorry (cuz apparently that girl told him to do so) and I forgave him, but that’s it.
A few days later I left my cell phone in the exam room in the cell phone box, when I went to get it, it wasn’t there. So I called myself, and he had picked it up. He told me that he was worried that someone might steal it so he took it himself. The next day he finds me and he didn’t have it, so he takes me to his locker and I say thanks.
Once again we don’t talk to each other for a week (it was more like avoiding each other actually). But something was bothering me inside, despite my resistance, I fell for it. I fell for…him. At the end of a week, a group of us were supposed to go to dinner as a end of exams thing. He was there, and he was back to his old self again. I decided to go along with it, but this time, deep down inside (I fell for it all).
So BSG these are my questions:
- does he like me or the other girl?
- how on earth do I stop thinking about it? Is it a passing feeling? How long will it take before I get over it?
- if he even does like me, should I tell him, even though I’m not allowed to date? (I’m 17)
Merci, ~Traumatized Teenager~
Dear TT: Your letter made the Bitter Single Guy feeling a little like he’s taken a roller coaster ride (twisty, funny, but overall somewhat painful)! Rather than get into the deep details of your letter, the BSG will respond to your specific questions:
- does he like me or the other girl?
BSG: Probably he likes you both and doesn’t know want to have to choose. Why should he when he’s got you (and probably her as well) all wrapped up in trying to win him?
- how on earth do I stop thinking about it? Is it a passing feeling? How long will it take before I get over it?
BSG: It is a passing feeling and it will pass, although the BSG and his readers who are past their 20’s will also say that the depth of emotion that comes from youthful crushes is a memory to be savored as one gets older. The BSG thinks you’ve got about 2 months of these feelings before they start to fade.
- if he even does like me, should I tell him, even though I’m not allowed to date? (I’m 17)
BSG: Are you asking the BSG if you should tell him that you like him? Sure, why not. If you’re not going to date him, then why not mess with him a little?
~BSG~
