Dear Bitter Single Guy: I have been with my girl for almost a year now and things were going great; we got along, we never fought, etc etc, all that jazz. All of a sudden a few months ago her grandpa passed away and since then she’s been a total bitch; very mean, very short, she puts me on the back burner to her friends and prefers to hang out with them and get drunk and not include me at all. She looks forward to her bar nights instead of seeing me when I hardly see her because she lives 80+ miles away. The day after thanksgiving I get the “I need my space ” speech, the “I don’t want a relationship right now” speech. I don’t know if she wants to see other people. If I ask her if she wants another man she says I don’t want any man not even you. She says she’ll take me back, but I have to leave her alone and give her “space.” She wants to live her life, be single and have a good time. What the hell do I do…give her the time to have to herself, or just move on? ~Missing Her Already~
Dear MHA: The Bitter Single Guy thinks you should let her go. If, as you seem to suspect, she is having a prolonged reaction to the death of her grandfather, it seems likely that she’ll be coming back to you at some point once she’s marinated her grief in enough alcohol. However, if she’s just done with you (which also seems true, based on what you write) then she’s not likely to be back anytime soon.
Either way, there are no decisions you can make other than to step back and let her go. She’s told you that she doesn’t want any man, even you; told you that she needs space; and she would rather hang out with her friends than with you…the BSG definitely considers it over.
By the way; don’t believe the “don’t want any man” line. The BSG suspects that in short order your ex will have someone new who will probably live much closer to her than you do. ~BSG~