Comments on: Sort of Broken Up http://bittersingleguy.com/sort-of-broken-up/ Humorous Advice From a Guy Who's Been Dumped Once Too Often Wed, 09 May 2012 15:33:59 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Steve Barkasy http://bittersingleguy.com/sort-of-broken-up/comment-page-1/#comment-1168 Steve Barkasy Tue, 12 Jan 2010 20:19:59 +0000 http://bittersingleguy.com/?p=718#comment-1168 I think it would be best to spend some time to honestly reflect on whether you are interested in getting back together or not. If you are, then you need a good plan to get there or else as noted above, you will get strung along and most likely hurt in the end. If you decide that you don't want to engage, then a clean break is in order and move on to a happier life. Good Luck! Steve <a href="<a href="http://1-800date.me/dating-sites/adult-friend-finder/" rel="nofollow">http://themagicofmakingupreview.com</a>">Get Back Together</a> I think it would be best to spend some time to honestly reflect on whether you are interested in getting back together or not. If you are, then you need a good plan to get there or else as noted above, you will get strung along and most likely hurt in the end. If you decide that you don’t want to engage, then a clean break is in order and move on to a happier life.

Good Luck!

Steve
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]]> By: BSG http://bittersingleguy.com/sort-of-broken-up/comment-page-1/#comment-958 BSG Thu, 12 Nov 2009 17:32:47 +0000 http://bittersingleguy.com/?p=718#comment-958 <p>Howdy Conflicted: The BSG heard your pain (in your lengthy email) and wanted to respond as soon as he could...so you're welcome for the quick turnaround.</p> <p>Yes, you're stringing <em>him </em>along. <em>You </em>can't be strung along if you're the dump<em>er</em>. Of course he has mixed feelings, that's why you broke up with him in the first place.</p> <p>Step up, Conflicted. He was unable or unwilling to set appropriate boundaries so you set them.  Now keep them.</p> <p>~BSG~</p> Howdy Conflicted: The BSG heard your pain (in your lengthy email) and wanted to respond as soon as he could…so you’re welcome for the quick turnaround.

Yes, you’re stringing him along. You can’t be strung along if you’re the dumper. Of course he has mixed feelings, that’s why you broke up with him in the first place.

Step up, Conflicted. He was unable or unwilling to set appropriate boundaries so you set them.  Now keep them.

~BSG~

]]> By: Conflicted http://bittersingleguy.com/sort-of-broken-up/comment-page-1/#comment-957 Conflicted Thu, 12 Nov 2009 16:56:06 +0000 http://bittersingleguy.com/?p=718#comment-957 Thanks, SBG.  I am so surprised and impressed you actually responded, in a day!  I am also surprised that you think I am stringing him along (which kind of made me want to laugh and cry at the same time.) I always thought he was stringing me along - no capacity to deal with a new relationship yet did not want to lose me (I know he cared about me and still does and we were both very happy until the shit hit the fan .....) He did ask me (mostly implicitely as he is a non-communicator) to be patient and give him some time. I did not know what was going on until I attempted to break up with him for the first time - that is when he told me about the mess that he thought was behind him.  When we said we could not go on like this for the third time, he did yell at me "I don't want a girlfriend right now".  Then of course, he txted me the next day apologizing, but also said "my brain is a mess, I just cannot deal with all at the same time." See, my head tells me it was the right decision for both of us, but my heart aches as he left such a void in it - I was in love, and still care for him.  He calls me once or twice a week, and we always end up talking for a long time.  I do realize where I could have done better and differently. But I am not sure it is the time for me to even bring up "dating".  So are we really stringing each other along? Or are we both in a helpless situation and just waiting for a better timing? Thanks, SBG.  I am so surprised and impressed you actually responded, in a day!  I am also surprised that you think I am stringing him along (which kind of made me want to laugh and cry at the same time.) I always thought he was stringing me along – no capacity to deal with a new relationship yet did not want to lose me (I know he cared about me and still does and we were both very happy until the shit hit the fan …..) He did ask me (mostly implicitely as he is a non-communicator) to be patient and give him some time. I did not know what was going on until I attempted to break up with him for the first time – that is when he told me about the mess that he thought was behind him.  When we said we could not go on like this for the third time, he did yell at me “I don’t want a girlfriend right now”.  Then of course, he txted me the next day apologizing, but also said “my brain is a mess, I just cannot deal with all at the same time.” See, my head tells me it was the right decision for both of us, but my heart aches as he left such a void in it – I was in love, and still care for him.  He calls me once or twice a week, and we always end up talking for a long time.  I do realize where I could have done better and differently. But I am not sure it is the time for me to even bring up “dating”.  So are we really stringing each other along? Or are we both in a helpless situation and just waiting for a better timing?

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