Comments on: Suppressing Co-Dependence

By: SID

SID — Wed, 24 Mar 2010 22:34:31 +0000

Thanks for all your advice. While I believe that everyone could benefit from some therapy, I don’t really have the time or means right now. Other than that things are still going well in my life. Just being aware that I need alone time as much as he does helps a lot. Now, almost six months into it, our relationship is still going healthy and strong.
Thanks again, everyone.

By: John

John — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 17:04:16 +0000

Time alone. ALONE. Does wonders. I’ve gone from not being able to spend a minute alone to seriously valuing my space. I am a way better relationship partner as a result.

By: Olivia

Olivia — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 14:36:18 +0000

You all have great ideas. You see, I am going through the same problem in my relationship. Sometimes I feel like the only thing that makes me happy is him and if he can’t be there or isn’t paying enough attention to me I cry and feel sad and down. This is because I do not have much going on in my life and I really WANT to change that. Because I don’t want to lose him and even if I did I’d have the same problem in another relationship.

By: KT

KT — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 18:50:14 +0000

I like your response Terez. The best therapy will help you learn who you are in a relationship, the bad and the good, and will assist you in encountering the bad in a way that is healthy to you but not destructive to the relationship. Then you will be more informed when asking your partner for what you need from him/her, while at the same time being in a better position to get those things outside of the relationship. It’s a win-win.

By: Terez

Terez — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 06:28:02 +0000

My feeling is that another person can not “complete” another person. I agree that in this case therapy is needed. However, only by embarking on a journey of self-discovery can a person discover their passions and purpose – what makes one happy and fulfilled. Once that epiphany is reached, the tendency to make another person responsible for your own happiness will diminish.