Love Not Yet Reciprocated
Dear Bitter Single Guy: I am a 27 year old woman who has been dating a 37 year old man for the last six months. I have fallen in love with him and expressed my love to him, but he is not quite there with me yet. He has told me that he cares for me and ‘likes me a lot.’ He likes spending time with me, my family, he likes doing things with me and he likes just sitting around watching TV with me. However, he is just 7 months out of his divorce being finalized and says his heart is still hurt. I love this man and want to see him through things, but I am starting to feel a bit hopeless that he will never return my love. He promised he would tell me if he felt that he would never fall in love with me, but I still cannot shake that feeling. Should I stay? How long is too long to wait for him to return my feelings? Is there any way I can help heal his heart? ~Waiting for Love~
Dear WFL: Really? You met this man a month after his divorce and 6 months later you wonder why he’s not ready to declare his love for you? The BSG is totally with Divorced Dude on this one. You need to back off the pressure for at least another 6 months.
A divorce is emotionally devastating for many folks and the BSG would be surprised (and frankly suspicious) if Divorced Dude was willing to jump back in the deep end with you so soon.
If, after a year together, Divorced Dude is still hurting from his divorce, you need to decide whether he’s worth waiting for. In the meantime, there’s nothing you can do to help him heal his heart…pretty much he needs time for that. If you pressure him enough however, the BSG is pretty sure he’ll bolt. ~BSG~
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