Keeping Her Ex’s Picture
Dear Bitter Single Guy: My boyfriend was looking through my phone and saw a picture of an old boyfriend in my pictures. He asked why I saved it and I said that my pictures automatically save; he knew that they don’t though. He hates lying but I felt pressured and lied. I love him with all my heart and really don’t know what to do. We’re going to talk tomorrow and he said if I don’t have a reason for lying that we’re done. I have no feelings for the guy in the picture I just forgot it was on there and I’m lost without my boyfriend. I really don’t know what going to happen but as of right now I have no reason for lying just because I always save my pictures. Please help me! ~Picture Saver~
Dear PS: The Bitter Single Guy is not fooled here. He sees that you are distressed and is (of course) sad for that, but you dance around the issue here. You received a picture from an old boyfriend and made the conscious choice to save it. Whatever your reason (nostalgia, eye-candy, shopping for your next boyfriend) you haven’t told the BSG or your boyfriend why you saved this picture.
PS, you’re wringing your hands and wailing about how important your boyfriend is and how you love him with all your heart, then you say you have no reason for lying. Well gracious PS, that’s just hooey. Of course you have a reason for lying or you wouldn’t have lied. It’s more likely that you’re just not willing to tell either your boyfriend or the BSG what that reason is.
The BSG recommends being honest and he means actually honest which could be:
- I think my ex is hot and liked the picture so wanted to keep it.
- I think about my ex sometimes, even though I’m happy in our relationship.
- It seems sometimes that you’re willing to throw our relationship away because of something as petty as a lie about a picture on a phone, so I like to keep my options open until I think that you and I are more stable and by the way, what were you doing going through the pictures on my phone?
Yes, the BSG took a swipe at your boyfriend there because that seems like an important piece of this pie as well. ‘Fess up, PS. Your life will be easier.
~BSG~
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