Tower of Lies
Dear Bitter Single Guy: I met my current partner about two yours ago, and we became a serious couple six months later. Our relationship isn’t without its problems, and we had a fight that almost destroyed it a month ago. But we were working through it.
Last week, I discovered that his sister who I have been speaking with through email and text messages (to try and work through the problems I’m having with him), is really him. This is horrible, because I’ve been talking to her through our entire relationship; she has basically been our buffer. I don’t know why he lied, but it feels like he’s been cheating on me the whole time, even if I know he hasn’t been sexually.
I don’t want to leave him over this, but I’m afraid if I try to confront him it will only make things worse (especially since it was my ex who found out and told me, and my partner can’t stand him). What should I do? ~Smoke and Mirrors~
Dear SAM: The Bitter Single Guy understands the logic behind your beau’s decision to deceive you in order to better understand your point of view, but this is where what’s logical and what’s right diverge. The BSG thinks this is twisted beyond recovery and he thinks that regardless of who found out, you need to confront your Deceitful Darling with this rather spectacular lie.
If this was a one-time thing, the BSG thinks it’s probably recover-able, but if this went on for any more than about a week, then the BSG says dump his sorry ass. Your partner is supposed to be the one you can trust to have your back, not play you like this.
By the way, expecting that your partner’s sibling is able to be sufficiently objective to provide support and advice in you dating her brother is a little dangerous, the BSG thinks. Find a new friend to confide in.
~BSG~
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